Find your calendar and flip back to the beginning of the year
and see what you wrote then for “to do’s” in the year. Some of you may have even applied a time line to your goals and aspirations; others simply listed them, assuming the appropriate time will occur to you along the way.
For every one of us “life happens” when we have other plans, so our calendar expresses our intentions, not necessarily our actions for a specific day. Sometimes those occurrences are welcome diversions from a tiresome routine, and sometimes they are unnecessary distractions, and sometimes they are actual emergencies that require our time, energy and attention.
You have only 24 hours in a day, and how you choose to fill
those hours reveals your priorities. At the end of the day, the
feelings you have about the activities you did during the day reflect how close those actions come to your authentic self. If you experience discomfort the level of frustration you feel indicate your separation from your authentic self. If those actions were items on your calendar, then the question to ask is who controls your calendar?
Does Your Calendar Control You?
The way to find out is to examine your feelings around each item placed on the page. If you feel eager anticipation, then it’s your authentic self approving the appointment. If, on the other hand, you hear someone else’s voice dictating the obligation, responsibility, or duty, perhaps it’s not in your best interest to spend your time that way or with those people.
There are obligations taking up space on your calendar that express your authentic self. Certainly, a trip to the dentist is not something most of us look forward to, but it is an expression of our commitment to self care, to our health and wellness.
Pause for Power
At the end of the week, the end of the month, or the year; look at your calendar and congratulate yourself for the actions that benefitted you or someone else. When you turn the page on your calendar to fill in the blanks in the next time segment, take a moment to consider yourself before committing your time to things that are not an expression of your authenticity.
There’s power in the pause.
...more wise words from your Life, Wellness, Personal and Professional Mentor.